Focus on the positive!
I am the first one to tell you to focus on the positive. Yet somehow I sometimes seem to escape my own advice....
I can occasionally be a horrible human being in more ways than one. But the one thing I know for sure I am not horrible at all is being a mommy. I truly love my kids, I'm crazy for them, and completely forever devoted to making their life as best as I can with whatever I have. I DO my best. Not only do I know I am a good mother but others compliment me on it and although it's difficult for me to take compliments, this is nice to hear. But, since New Year's Eve I have been a lousy mother.
Because I was sick, I was not (according to my high self expectations) the most awesome active and hands on involved mom I usually am, this for me is a recipe for disaster - I kept feeling very sad and angry with myself and putting myself down; telling myself I am not a good mom, that I have done so much wrong, I wished to start over etc etc.. I put myself through major unnecessary guilt by thinking too much and digging through a mental box of past memories!
I had been in deep sadness by the fact that I had not been 100% there for them, I felt horrible! I still cooked, bathed them, played and cuddled with them, but I was not able to go outside or do cartwheels so that made me feel very low. I asked myself, Am I the only mom who gets this sad and angry at herself? I felt so alone in my thoughts and feelings that day, pretty crappy and misunderstood, nobody to relate with... I know I am an ok mom and yes I was sick so that was a valid excuse but I want to know why I feel that horrible. So of course you know I am a junkie for analyzing and reading psychology, so I thought - GREAT, time to investigate!.
However, I continued to be sick and than had a lot to catch up on and didn't get time to further pursue my investigation and conclude a self analysis; I am glad I didn't because sometimes things are very simple and during those days I got an answer straight from above through my mother! As well as the answers confirmed today through a video of Joyce Meyer.
You see, my mother called me out of the blue on one of my sad days and as always we had a fantastic conversation and this one in particular enlightened me and helped me snap out of it. Out of the many things she said to me was that one thing I basically coach others to do on a daily basis: Stop living in the past, change involves getting off your ass and out of your head.
I had realized I was sick and that there was not much I could do about that, but I was having trouble accepting the reality, and that lack of humbleness in accepting such a small fact was in turn creating anger towards my own character due to unrealistic and unfair expectations. So I let go, accepted the facts and embraced the moment and turned it into a positive, I immediately began enjoying to the fullest our time on the couch watching movies, without any guilt, and this was indeed a treat for my kids as we are not the type of family to live in front of a television.
Today through Joyce Meyer among various messages that I received I also had my conclusion.
I simply had to accept reality, see things from a different angle, acknowledge the positive in the situation, embrace it and enjoy those moments. Most of all I had to accept that I AM A GOOD MOTHER.
Here is the link to this awesome Joyce Meyer video to keep focus on the positive.
January 7, 2014 Focus on the Positive Things in Life – Pt 2
Follow the link:
http://www.joycemeyer.org/BroadcastHome.aspx?video=Focus_on_the_Positive_Things_in_Life_%E2%80%93_Pt_2
I am still a bit sick, so I hope this post makes sense to you. I will come back and review it later on, but I just felt compelled to share this immediately, and I am sure there is a reason.
Stay Fresh!
XOXO,
Ana
I can occasionally be a horrible human being in more ways than one. But the one thing I know for sure I am not horrible at all is being a mommy. I truly love my kids, I'm crazy for them, and completely forever devoted to making their life as best as I can with whatever I have. I DO my best. Not only do I know I am a good mother but others compliment me on it and although it's difficult for me to take compliments, this is nice to hear. But, since New Year's Eve I have been a lousy mother.
Because I was sick, I was not (according to my high self expectations) the most awesome active and hands on involved mom I usually am, this for me is a recipe for disaster - I kept feeling very sad and angry with myself and putting myself down; telling myself I am not a good mom, that I have done so much wrong, I wished to start over etc etc.. I put myself through major unnecessary guilt by thinking too much and digging through a mental box of past memories!
I had been in deep sadness by the fact that I had not been 100% there for them, I felt horrible! I still cooked, bathed them, played and cuddled with them, but I was not able to go outside or do cartwheels so that made me feel very low. I asked myself, Am I the only mom who gets this sad and angry at herself? I felt so alone in my thoughts and feelings that day, pretty crappy and misunderstood, nobody to relate with... I know I am an ok mom and yes I was sick so that was a valid excuse but I want to know why I feel that horrible. So of course you know I am a junkie for analyzing and reading psychology, so I thought - GREAT, time to investigate!.
However, I continued to be sick and than had a lot to catch up on and didn't get time to further pursue my investigation and conclude a self analysis; I am glad I didn't because sometimes things are very simple and during those days I got an answer straight from above through my mother! As well as the answers confirmed today through a video of Joyce Meyer.
You see, my mother called me out of the blue on one of my sad days and as always we had a fantastic conversation and this one in particular enlightened me and helped me snap out of it. Out of the many things she said to me was that one thing I basically coach others to do on a daily basis: Stop living in the past, change involves getting off your ass and out of your head.
I had realized I was sick and that there was not much I could do about that, but I was having trouble accepting the reality, and that lack of humbleness in accepting such a small fact was in turn creating anger towards my own character due to unrealistic and unfair expectations. So I let go, accepted the facts and embraced the moment and turned it into a positive, I immediately began enjoying to the fullest our time on the couch watching movies, without any guilt, and this was indeed a treat for my kids as we are not the type of family to live in front of a television.
Today through Joyce Meyer among various messages that I received I also had my conclusion.
I simply had to accept reality, see things from a different angle, acknowledge the positive in the situation, embrace it and enjoy those moments. Most of all I had to accept that I AM A GOOD MOTHER.
Here is the link to this awesome Joyce Meyer video to keep focus on the positive.
January 7, 2014 Focus on the Positive Things in Life – Pt 2
Follow the link:
http://www.joycemeyer.org/BroadcastHome.aspx?video=Focus_on_the_Positive_Things_in_Life_%E2%80%93_Pt_2
I am still a bit sick, so I hope this post makes sense to you. I will come back and review it later on, but I just felt compelled to share this immediately, and I am sure there is a reason.
Stay Fresh!
XOXO,
Ana
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